Delicious Darkness of a Transsexual Courtesan

"Won't you come and taste me?" Guest Author TS Rachel

I am a blackberry, sweet, succulent and delicious. It took some time, but I am now ripe for the picking. Savor my flavors and all their delicate nuances, that is if blackberries are you thing. Some prefer other flavors from nature's bounty: raspberry, strawberry or even boysenberry, but many know the darker the berry, the sweeter the fruit.

Since I was a young child, I remember sitting around my mother and her sisters and close girlfriends listening to them discuss life and light commentary about serious subjects. As a child of the South, I was accustomed to hearing old sayings, colloquialisms that always seemed to fit the subject matter to a tee. One day, I was there when they were talking about the American standard of beauty and their take on it, when my aunt laughingly said, "Well you know what they say, 'the darker the berry, the sweeter the juice' ". Wow, how catchy and profound.

What is the origin of this phrase? Was it a metaphor about darker-skinned women or were they actually talking about blackberries versus raspberries? In keeping with Black History Month, let's explore.

The Blacker the Berry: a Novel of Negro Life

is a novel by author Wallace Thurman. The novel tells the story of Emma Lou Morgan, a dark-skinned African-American woman, beginning in Boise, Idaho and ending in Harlem during the Harlem Renaissance. Throughout the novel, Emma Lou is discriminated against by lighter-skinned African Americans and she must come to terms with her skin color if she is ever to be satisfied with her life. This novel, published in 1929, is one of the earliest written using the phrase, but I am sure it is as old as time in the black community.

Discrimination is not just a problem between white and blacks, but actually amongst African Americans as well

Some of the world's most beautiful women have been of darker complexion. The last 100 years have presented a slow awakening to that obvious beauty. Some of the first black icons of beauty have been Josephine Baker, Lena Horne, Dorothy Dandridge, and Dihann  Carroll. What is obvious to some but not most is that they are all of lighter complexion. When Lena Horne first came to prominence there was no makeup for her and the great Hollywood makeup artist Max Factor created a shade of foundation based upon her complexion. He called it 'Light Egyptian'. I guess it looked more exotic and appealed to a broader audience on store shelves.

Some of the darker skinned beauties that have come along in the last 30 years or so and have bucked the conventional standard of beauty have been the world's first black supermodel Beverly Johnson, Grace Jones, Iman, Naomi Campbell, Alek Wek and Kerry Washington. 'Light Egyptian' is a few shades too light for me as it must have been for these women of deeper skin tone.

I am the blackberry; won't you come and have a taste?

Written by Geisha Diaries Guest Author and Transsexual, TS Rachel

Escort Dating in the Real World

"It seems that regular, non escort women in the dating world don't even bother screening a guy to make sure he is not an ax murderer before heading out to dinner with him" Guest Author Mrs. Robinson

Outside of my escort business, I’ve hardly dated much in years. As a single parent, I have dedicated myself to raising my daughter. I never brought men into my home nor did I bring the few men who I dated around my daughter. I have been committed to maintaining a stable environment for my child and making a solid living. Now that my daughter has grown up and moved out I have been thinking about dating again.

I wonder what other companions think of normal dating websites

Recently, I joined a popular dating site just looking to meet someone new, not trying to pick up clients. I posted a normal profile.  Even though my profile states that I am not willing to meet with anyone until I get to know them online, 99% of the responses were 1 liners wanting to meet immediately for coffee, drinks or dinner. They were all evasive and wouldn’t engage in simple conversation while all claiming to want long term relationships.

I answered about 100 emails though it seemed like they were all losers

Even though my profile said I wasn't willing to date anyone that made less than 100 k a year, owned a home and had no debt the emails poured in, 225 within the first hour. I was at it for over 8 hours before I gave up and I wasn't even looking at their pictures anymore, just reading the emails and profiles before responding.

It seems that regular, non escort women in the dating world don't even bother screening a guy to make sure he is not an ax murderer before heading out to dinner with him. Do these women have no standards? As an escort, I screen all clients with whom I intend to meet. I do background checks and verify the man’s ID when we meet. Most importantly, I always let a friend know where I am going, with whom I am meeting and that I will touch base with them upon my return to ensure my personal safety.

These men don't even try to impress

They provide their handle and first name. They may tell you what they do for a living and then either want to chat or have you call them for an immediate meet up.

I don't understand why any woman would want to date a man who expects her to work and then come home to a second shift of taking care of him, the house and stroking his ego. These men act like they are entitled and that a man providing for a woman is a new concept.

Perhaps I am not ready to venture out into today's real dating world. But at least as an escort, I don't have to pick up their dirty socks in the morning.

Written by Geisha Diaries Guest Author & Companion, Mrs. Robinson

Placées - Black Sugar Babies of the 1700's

"The world of the sugar baby, companion or mistress has deep roots in cultures throughout time" Guest Author Texasugah

Imagine flowing, jewel toned silk, lace, satin and fine linens; a dressing room filled with the heady scent of French parfum; her closet filled with rows of handmade shoes and matching purses. Imagine a lady dressed in lovely foundations, corset and stockings; the walls of her townhome laden with art de jour and custom furnishings; a servant to cater to her whims and take away her daily cares while she awaits a visit from her lover; a world of decadence with elegant balls, dinners and passionate evenings.

Many know the story of Sally Hemmings once reported to be the most notorious woman in America.  Sally’s lifelong love affair with Thomas Jefferson was confirmed with DNA tests performed on their descendants in 1998. Yet there is another story of women of color who lived in their own high society in the South through the 1700 and 1800s.

The Plaçage (French for “to place with”) was a widely recognized system whereby free women of color enjoyed comfort as mistresses of wealthy white men

It was an open and respectable society in its own right. These women, known as placées, were generally maintained in city homes that were bought for them by their lovers (not unlike a Sugar daddy purchasing a townhome for his mistress). These ladies were considered Creole, quatroons (1/8^th black) or mulatto( ½ black) and prized for their beauty. In most cases, these women were well educated and multilingual. 

In these, “mariages de la main gauche” or left handed marriages, many of the women had children

Children born to these unions were not considered black but “gens de couleur” or people of color. The lovers arranged for the boys’ educations in prestigious private schools in France. In some cases, the boys returned to inherit their father’s businesses if there were no other male offspring. The girls were taught by governesses to become mistresses themselves because, in many cases, this was the best option for women of color.

Placées found themselves in a quandary. Existing outside of the general society, they were forbidden from legally wedding their white lovers, were accustomed to finery that the average Creole man could not provide and were too educated and elevated to consider freed slaves. Some who didn’t remain in a lifelong arrangement became courtesans who commanded $10 per hour when the average laborer made only $.22 cents per hour. A great number of the Placee women continued to establish their own small businesses, inherited and manage their own plantations.

The celebrated New Orleans Ballroom was once home to the Quadroon Ball

These opulent events were depicted in “The Courage to Love” featuring Vanessa Williams. Wealthy white southerners, of “good family” were invited to mingle with light-skinned women of color in hopes of acquiring mistresses (if only it was so easy to meet a sugar daddy today).  These men were predominantly in their early 20s and created families until they were able to take on “legitimate families “ as interracial marriage was illegal. Arrangements were generally negotiated by a woman’s mother. Typically, the parent were compensated (yes, mom got an allowance, too), complete care for the mistress and legal recognition of any children born of the union. Beyond complete support during the relationship, should her protector and lover die before her, she could challenge the courts for up to a third of his property.

An influx of Northern whites cast a shadow on the Plaçage society.  It was seen as reprehensible and this sentiment was fueled legally by bitter wives, religious and social activists. It was seen as a form of prostitution and was maligned despite the fact that for many decades these ladies outnumbered the number of free black men.  What was a lady to do? 

Famous Placées

Marie Susanne

A child of placage herself, entered into a life long placage with a planter. She successfully managed her own affairs and died in 1838 leaving an estate valued at over $ 1.5 million in 2011 currency.

Rosette Rochon

Born 1767, was the placage of both Joseph Forstal and Charles Populus, both wealthy White New Orleans Creoles. She leveraged her position to buy real estate in New Orleans. Throughout her career she purchased rental property, open grocery stores, bought and sold mortgages and rented out slaves. Her son became a government official in Haiti.

Marie Laveau

The voodoo queen of New Orleans, lived with her lover Dumesil de Glapion. He was so in love with her that he refused to live separately from her and posed as a man of color to keep their relationship respectable. They had fifteen children. One of them, Marie Euchariste or Marie LeveauII, looked so much like her mother that many thought Marie had been resurrected.

Over the years, the extraordinary story of these beautiful ladies has been largely forgotten taking with it a very unique and vibrant culture. 

Written by Geisha Diaries Guest Author & Sugar Baby, Texasugah

Endless Orgasms in the World of Electrosex

"With the electrical current doing all the movement for me, orgasms became nearly effortless" Guest Author, Madame X

You are lying on your back, completely at ease, yet you can't stop your pulse from quickening sharply as you think of the thrill soon to come. Hovering above you, I feel your excitement as well. My hand strokes your neck gently, a physical reminder to keep calm.

“Relax, baby. Don't fight the current. I want you to enjoy this”

The control box has several wires leading to two fabric strips around your enthusiastic shaft with two similar round patches at the base. My fingers gently turn the small dial and you feel a warm, rubbing sensation up your most sensitive areas. The dial stops and the rubbing increases to a rapid tingling. My hand on your neck tells me that you're enjoying this new sensation and are ready for more. I turn the dial up higher, and – Oh My God!

What you're experiencing is the TENS, transcutaneous electrical nerve stimulation

Most who are familiar with it know it from non-sexual settings as it's often used by doctors to treat muscle and nerve injuries by stimulating nerves and consequently the muscles they control. I was first introduced to the TENS in this setting where I learned the basics of enjoying electric flow. I found if I was tense in any way, my muscles would resist the electrical current and I would be uncomfortably jarred. However, if I completely relaxed, the current would pulse through me smoothly, moving my muscles, kneading me and giving me the most thorough, satisfying massage ever. Being that my skin was so pleasantly sensitive after treatment, it wasn't long before my mind wandered to particular body parts that could use a thorough massage!

With my own TENS in my home, I decided to see what fun I could have with myself and found that it was much more than I imagined. With the electrical current doing all the movement for me, orgasms became nearly effortless! With no conscious control of my own stimulation (until I thought coherently enough to power off the TENS), they were endless as well... incredible. So incredible, in fact, that I was sure I wasn't the only person having such a fantastic time. I immediately went to the internet to see who else was lucky enough to discover instant orgasms at the turn of a dial.

People have been playing with electricity for well over a hundred years even through eras that were considered extremely sexually repressed

Turns out, a lot of lucky folks! We've come a long way since the mechanical masturbation belts of the 1850's and the Relaxacisors of the 1970's. As technology advances, so does the wonderful world of Electrosex. We now have electrified plugs, clips,  sheaths, dildos, specially designed electrified versions of all your favorite musical numbers (featuring a variety of wave forms to make your orgasms unique and memorable) and preassembled kits if you'd like to easily electrify a few of your favorite standard sex toys.

While Electrosex is so much fun as a solo activity, it's a wonderful experience to share as well

I enjoy using my electrically responsive gloves to add a delightfully shocking edge to my usually soft caress, leaving the trail of my touch wonderfully receptive to whatever else may follow. The increased sensitivity that electrical stimulation brings to all erotic activities has definitely been noted and named the Slightest Touch Method, where simply exposing yourself to a gentle electrical current (via the contact cloths of the TENS, under my gloved hands, or a few strategically placed clips) will make the orgasms you knew you'd enjoy amazingly more explosive!

The D'Arsonval, or violet wand, is also a very popular approach that delivers an intriguing visual element to Electrosex

The D'arsonval creates a constant supply of static electricity which collects in a glass tube electrode until the glass makes contact with skin. Depending on the contents of the tube, the glowing sparks can be any color and the sparks visibly fly from the wand, which makes for quite a show! Of course, the electrodes come in every imaginable shape, size, and function and the possibilities are tantalizingly endless. Even though this particular piece of equipment is more commonly associated with a BDSM setting, many consider the tingling pleasure that the D'Arsonval leaves behind is well worth the brief moment of pleasurable pain.

Like all things though, safety first! Electricity has no limits, so be sure to remember yours. If you're already controlling your natural electrical processes with prosthetics (i.e. you have a pacemaker or similar equipment) then these activities should be off limits and high levels of electricity should never be applied to the chest!

Keep things below the belt…which is probably where you wanted to go anyway, right?

Written by Geisha Diaries Guest Author, Madame X

A Submissive Reveals Himself

"As I became more interested in the scene, it became clear that BDSM was the best way to express my sexuality" Guest Author & submissive, Dymion

Geisha Diaries seeks to de-mystify the proverbial divide between the adult world and what common society considers the conventional world. Most often, the adult world consists of folks seeking to explore various avenues of sexuality, considered taboo in the conventional world, for two reasons: financial mobility or self-expression. Almost all cross over into the adult world in an effort to make ends meet and/or fulfill their individuality for needs that haven’t been met in the conventional world. Does that make them unusual, freakish or perverted? Perhaps to some, but not when you consider that all of the topics explored here on Geisha Diaries are written and read by neighbors, friends, parents, dentists, CEO’s, executives, artists, technicians and entrepreneurs. They are secretly indulged.

Consider the lifestyle of a Dom/submissive relationship. That’s what we did by way of a phone interview with Dymion, owned and collared by Selena. No more words are necessary as the interview speaks for itself:

1. How did you discover that you are a submissive?

By the time I was in my late teens, early 20’s, I realized that I was attracted to this BDSM sort of erotica. It fit well with an crucial part of my personality of who I was. . It was an inherent feeling inside me. We have to be true to who we are. As we explore the world we have experiences that feel right. As soon as I got involved, it felt right and it explained many years of curiosity.

2. Did your first BDSM experience scare you?

No. By the nature of BDSM activities, there was such an adrenaline rush that it overwhelmed the part of me that was afraid. It was so exciting. You anticipate something developing. It’s something that you believe is a part of what and who you are.

3. How would you describe your relationship with your Goddess Selena?

Phenomenal! It’s the kind of relationship that I waited for all my life. We have been together four years and she is my soul mate. We've been talking about getting married for quite a while now, and it's right around the corner.

4. Does fidelity apply to your Dominant / submissive relationship?

Absolutely. This is not a client-type relationship or one of friends with BDSM benefits. This is a truly extraordinary, loving relationship as strong as any marriage can be. It just so happens that with regard to our sexual relationship we have a very strong D/s (Dominance / submission) dynamic. We are fully competent as a couple. We care very deeply about each other. Our relationship exemplifies all aspects of a normal relationship with the added dimension of BDSM.

5. How do you handle this Dominant /submissive dynamic of your relationship with friends and family?

It is totally private, and nobody amongst our friends and family know about the BDSM or D/s nature of our relationship. While friends and family may pick up on elements of the D/s dynamics (without really knowing the meaning or background), and occasionally make remarks about how Selena "leads" our relationship, none are privy to the details. And nobody close to us gives us the impression that they are familiar with BDSM, D/s, or Female Led Relationships (FLR). They recognize that Selena makes the decisions. They might have a sense of it without placing words or tags on the relationship. Quote (and Moment) of the Day is a good example of what I’m talking about.

6. Is there any Sado-Masochism (S&M) involved?

Yes. There are regular activities that people would classify as sado-masochistic. We don’t have a full-out scene every day. But there are daily activities and rituals that are clearly sado-masochistic (SM) or bondage and discipline (B&D) by nature. 

7. Can you talk about your daily BDSM activities?

Well, there are really too many to list, but one of our daily rituals goes like this: every day, when I get home from work, I get the locking leather collar for Selena and I kneel before her. She’ll place it around my neck and lock it. It will stay there until I have to get ready for work the next day. It is a very powerful act, and it reinforces the Dominance and submission dynamic of our relationship. You can read more about the significance of the collar for us in New Collar. I have also been wearing an Eternity Collar for more than a year now. It is a stainless steel collar which is 3/8" thick and locks with a special screw that cannot be removed without the particular tool that only Selena keeps. She has not removed it since the very first day she collared me. A recent blog post, The Eternity Collar: One Year Anniversary, talks about it.

8. What kind of work do you do?

I am a high profile Vice President in a respected and well known organization. As someone in a key leadership position with this company, I am quite often in the public eye.

9. Can you distinguish between pleasure and pain?

Of course. But what some people may consider pain I might consider pleasure. Selena and I do draw a distinction between good pain and bad pain, or excessive good pain, if you will. Wearing nipple clamps is good pain for me (at least for a while), while dropping a heavy box on my foot is bad pain (nothing erotic or sensual about the latter). Selena's mood dictates activities and intensity of the play. Some days I can handle more while other days I can handle a little less. Communication and being tuned in to the reactions of one's partner during play are very important factors to ensure that both enjoy the scene. This includes, if necessary, the use of Safe Words to quickly adjust the pace or in certain extreme cases bring the activities to a halt if some go beyond my threshold. Without this kind of feedback, the BDSM play may wander into a dangerous zone that is too intense or even potentially harmful which would destroy the scene for both of us. Selena is very good at communicating with me and gauging how I'm doing during a scene. If a scene has escalated too quickly or to a level that is too intense for me, then the use of pre-determined Safe Words (such as green, yellow or red) allow us to adjust and avoid encountering a bad or dangerous scene.

10. Do you ever include other people in your BDSM activities?

Not into our personal BDSM activities. But we are active in the BDSM community. We have attended many munches and kink-oriented social events. We have also participated in private, closed parties where other people gather to talk about BDSM, D/s relationships, show-off their favorite BDSM toys, and play with their partners (and occasionally other people). We are monogamous in our sex life as well as in our BDSM activities. Fidelity extends to our BDSM play as well. We don't feel the need to have others be part of our play or our relational dynamics.

11. As a submissive, are you religious?

Organized religion is not a part of my life. I believe that spirituality lies elsewhere. But I know many people in the scene for whom religion is very important. Each to their own in spirituality and sexuality.

We continue to develop and grow in this private area of BDSM both emotionally and spiritually. It is a very enriching part of our lives that we share through our blog to demystify and provide people with a perspective. We’ve inspired people to explore and ask questions. We find BDSM a very rewarding part of our relationship.

Written by Geisha Diaries Guest Author & submissive, Dymion

Profiling the Hardcore Masochist

“The truly masochistic man is rare"

Guest Author Mad Masterfun, Femdom Society

The world of BDSM is a colorful one. The roots of every fetish and fantasy run deep. To produce femdom movies with camslaves who exhibit their fetishes is not easy.

The ladies of the Femdom Society are true sadists who love what they do. To them, a submissive man is no real challenge, sometimes even considered boring. They come to me and ask me to find hard pain masochists. Well. This type of man does not grow on trees. He is quite rare. 90-95% of the individuals in the Femdom Society videos are not masochists. They are submissive men who find satisfaction through torture by getting kicked sexually.

Masochists are a totally different breed

I met my friend John the first time in 2008 in the private club of Lady V at a femdom play party. This particular evening, I was in the salon with about a dozen spectators assisting a nice married couple, initiating their coming out. The husband was affixed to a cross as I demonstrated to his wife how to use paddle, cane and carpet beater on him.

Lady V kicked her two naked foot slaves away

Suddenly, there was a stir as beautiful Miss Medea stuck her head inside the door and anxiously announced, “John is here” as she smiled all over her pretty face. Never before had I seen Lady V act like a teenager in love, claiming “John, oh my! Now we are going to have fun”.

I thought who the hell is John? Germany’s next superstar? A combination of the three holy kings? Or a millionaire on vacation? Everyone except the couple left the room. There was a clamor outside the salon and my curiosity peaked. I took the married mistress by the hand and whispered, “We’ll give your husband a little rest and go have a look at what the others are doing” and left him hanging on the cross.

We walked into the small clinic room. It was crowded and impossible to get in when I recognized the voice of Lady V asking if there was someone with a camera. That was my ticket to elbow my way through the crowd.

I saw 5 Ladies gathered around a naked man

There was nothing spectacular about him, except for his nudity and 3 massive suitcases sitting next to him, open to reveal needles of every size and medical equipment I have never saw outside of a hospital.

Lady V and Mistress Marie were mending first his scrotum to the right breast nipple then his erect penis to the left breast nipple

I asked John if it was ok to take pictures. He smiled calmly and replied, ”It’s ok, but do not show my face”. The next hour I dealt with unpacking sterile needles and taking photos.

I asked myself, how can a man withstand such torturous pain in silence without any moaning and become sexually charged as a result?

The Ladies were betting how many infusion needles could be inserted into his stiff member. At the end, there were 86. The floor was puddled with blood yet John did not make a sound the entire time. He just stood in the middle of the room erect, smiling and bleeding. His cock was pumping up and down without any touch for over an hour.

Even after the Ladies freed John from the needles and mendings he denied himself of having an orgasm

He then retrieved from one his suitcases fresh clothing, disinfectant, soaps, bath towels and disappeared to the shower. Moments later, he returned refreshed as though nothing had happened, kissed the hands of Lady V and Mistress Marie and turned to leave.

I caught him at the exit with his suitcases. We exchanged small talk as he told me that he was interested in my photos. A week later, we met in a lounge in central Berlin during the day and I gave him his photos which he liked very much.

John is married with children and his wife knows about his fetish

Then we discussed his lifestyle, profession and family. He explained that enjoys normal sex with his wife without any intrusion of his fetish. She is aware that he satisfies his fetish 4-6 times per year as a deep need to express himself.

Something went wrong in his childhood when he was a little boy

He works in upper management as a technical specialist, leading hundreds of professionals as an important figure in the lives of 4 million people in a big city. As a young child, he had an operation to correct phimosis. The operation went awry and he had to stay in the children’s hospital for more than two months. Since then, he has been addicted to needles, nurses and all matters related to medical techniques.

I have no problem watching others bleed but if a needle comes close to me, I become a huge coward

Oddly enough, what connected our friendship is that I had the same operation when I was 9 years old. But since then, I developed a real paranoia of needles. Life is crazy and every person carries their own special nuances.

John and I  met often. Occassionally, he would come by for a beer after work to my BDSM club without play.  Other times he came to play doctor’s games.

Miss Rain and Kiria Chione are both medical professionals and sadistic

The first time John went in front of our cameras was in 2011. Miss Rain has a very special fetish: blood. To have these three together in a set didn’t require any directing. The two Ladies began silently, in a holy atmosphere, to needle him from the neck down to his genitals, using electric stimulation as well.

After they removed hundreds of needles, he stood smiling, bleeding, erect and proud

The Ladies were sexually stimulated from this session as John’s special wish for the day was for them to nail him with 6-3 inch silver nails directly through the breast nipples into a wooden beam. During this procedure, Miss Rain was milking his cock. I never could beg much less force her to do it in our other films where a submissive man may jerk off in front of her. We were banned behind our cameras while filming and all felt a strong sexual stimulation.

I was a bit jealous of John’s orgasm, never having seen a man shoot sperm for nearly half a minute

And I have seen a lot. After the session as we cleaned and disinfected the area, John neatly arranged his equipment in the suitcases as he smiled and said, “I didn’t want to orgasm, but how could I deprive your beautiful nurses? They were so good to me. I wanted to pleasure them”.

Well, he did.

Written by Geisha Diaries Guest Author & Dominant Master, Mad Masterfun

Intimate Confessions of a Hobbyist

Recently, when discussing a few issues related to my last Geisha Diaries article, "Escort Hobbyist Relationships", several intriguing questions were raised. They were evocative questions which really challenged me, particularly, as a punter, why I conduct myself in the manner in which I do. Written by Capital Punter

It was suggested that I explore these issues and questions in a follow up post, which I am only too happy to do here. I hope they will shed light into the preferences and practices of this particular English punter.

At the outset I wish to state, despite the inquisitive mind of the person who raised these questions, that I have absolutely no problem addressing such fundamental yet challenging and personal issues. As the old saying goes, "if you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything!". Therefore, to take a step back and reappraise my own values once in a while is not such a bad thing!

"You described in emotionally intimate detail the nature of your companion relationships in such a way that is strikingly similar to conventional dating relationships. While there are many companions who do share special relationships with their clients, most of those relationships are limited in many facets and ultimately end. So, with all due respect, I was quietly asking myself, why does this man choose companionship?"

 Some months ago, I took a generic look at this same issue on my own blog in an article entitled, "Why punt, why not date?". In this article, I considered many of the reasons why some may choose to punt, a few of which related directly to me. I also explored some of the alternatives to punting and to the conventional dating relationships.

In short, it is as simple as a lifestyle choice. Like so many, I have very demanding work and personal schedules and cannot always commit the time I would like not only to a personal relationship but also to a social life where I may form such attachments.

The reason I choose companions who provide closer, more intimate experiences is because I find the purported "girlfriend experience" to sometimes be cold and sterile

"Seems that you choose to include or even require many of the intricacies in companionship that are reminiscent of conventional relationships which are the very characteristics that many hobbyists look to avoid.”

This is very true! I do admit that I seek a deeper level of companionship and intimacy that many punters may not. However, we are all different. I prefer an all-round, natural relationship that is conducted on a professional basis, with no strings attached. Such an understanding keeps both parties clear of where we stand and what we seek from the relationship.

I am under no illusion that these assertive criteria by which I search for ideal companions have made me much more discerning about my choices. This probably accounts for why I have experienced so many challenges.

The fact that I use the plural "companions" further illustrates my lifestyle preference as I enjoy engaging the company of a variety of ladies, albeit a fairly small group

For me it is all about having great experiences without any issues. This causes me to be very selective. I will only see ladies with whom I share the same aspirations, outlook, desires and who enjoy operating the way I prefer to do so.

"Why not put forth the same effort in a conventional relationship? Does paid companionship yield a convenient sense of control, a sense of empowerment?"

This was a very challenging question for me. Although I am very clear about my feelings, it did cause me to explore my motives on a deeper level in an effort to be perfectly clear in my own mind.

The first part is simple. As I talked about earlier, dating companions is a lifestyle choice. Whether others disagree is a moral argument to be addressed in another post. However, I only act in a responsible, dignified and deferential manner, so I feel that I have far higher morals than some would expect.

I definitely do not punt for any form of control or empowerment

Indeed, my main requirement of a successful meeting with a companion is that she enjoys the date at least as much, if not more than I do. More often than not, I like my companion to choose where and when we meet and what we do on the date. I do not request particular attire or services and I prefer that the lady set the pace. Now that does not sound like control or empowerment to me, does it to you?

The companions I know well enjoy this closeness as much as I do

I do not coerce anyone into any particular behavior or activity. If they enjoy the intimacy and connection that I enjoy then that is fine. If not, I do not push it. But I do tend to see those companions who share my outlook. I have met several ladies who say they do enjoy this unique type of companionship.

I do not know if my views or modus operandi sound eccentric or immoral to other hobbyists, companions or folks outside of the escort – hobby world. However, as I talked about at the start, we are all different and seek different things. I do know that companions will have their "favorite" clients with whom they share a close affinity.

As long as we all engage in a safe, healthy and mutually respectful manner, I believe we can learn about ourselves and discover those special companions and create priceless memories.

Written by Geisha Diaries Guest Author and Punter, Capital Punter

Escort Hobbyist Relationships

"Is it possible for a British punter or an American hobbyist to actually maintain a friendship with a companion or escort?" Guest Author, Capital Punter

I’ve heard it is quite unusual in America, but I do know escorts in the U.S. who are good friends with hobbyists. However, I would have to say it is uncommon for a companion to be on close terms with a punter in the United Kingdom.

Based upon my personal research, striking a punter and escort friendship requires two people who are on the same wave length and share the same level of trust and openness

The very nature of an escort/client relationship thrives upon discretion, each side defining their personal boundaries and threshold of trust. To reach the point where one can fully trust someone else takes time and will vary for every party. Reciprocal trust is beyond our control, except for engendering it by our actions.

There have been numerous occasions when I have felt a close affinity to a companion

Our interests and tastes resembled, our outlooks matched and we enjoyed each other's company immensely. However, the relationships did not last. Maybe it was because we did not share common ground on every level where there was absolute trust and complete tolerance of each other. In my opinion, that’s when the relationships ended. Many of the dynamics of escort hobbyist relationships run parallel to those relationships that we experience in our personal lives whether with wives, girlfriends or lovers. However, in the context of the escort and client interaction, I appreciate that one must maintain a measured degree of distance to preserve one's own anonymity while respecting that of the other as well.

Revealing myself

It takes a great deal of time and many meetings to feel that I want to lower my barriers completely. Whilst I feel I am a fair judge of character, I have made too many mistakes in this area to feel that I can trust my judgment at all times. Therefore, I have to be convinced that I am doing the right thing in being candid. When I have done so, it has normally been in response to a companion having already been very open and accepting of me.

Striking the right balance

In any relationship, there is a fine balance to be achieved between being too open and being too distant. I find that if there is not even a basic, fundamental level of trust that develops after seeing someone many times over a long period, the relationship will not last. By the same token, I never wish to pry into a companion’s private affairs, so I will not ask personal questions. However, I make it clear that it is not due to a lack of interest in her as a person but rather a desire to be modest and respectful. I am forthright about myself to a degree that I feel the relationship warrants. If my companion reciprocates, I am more open. If she is reserved, I tend to hold back and this dance limits the longevity of the relationship.

Everyone will have a different definition of friendship, particularly in a companion and punter scenario

I know two companions very well. We know everything about each other. There are no secrets and where we can discuss anything. Indeed, I have told them things about myself I have never told even my family or closest friends and they have disclosed things to me in total confidence as well. The interesting point with each lady is that they confided in me before I revealed myself. Now we email or text daily and speak on the phone between meetings. Our meetings are always pre-arranged to conform to our personal schedules.

Our trust in each other must be absolute

Probably the most touching facet of this form of intimacy came recently during an unfortunate incident I experienced with another companion whom I thought I knew well (see what I said about my personal judgment?!). Both ladies called to check on my well being and both made it clear how they would like to stay in touch even if I decide to retire from the hobby. This meant so much to me on a fundamental level, "a friend in need" and all that. In fact, had it not been for them, I would not have written this story.

I firmly believe that an escort and client relationship should be mutually respectful

In all of our interactions in life, the degree of respect which we exhibit and with which we are afforded will determine the strength and direction of the relationship.I never coerce anyone to disclose anything they do not wish to share but it is still all about meeting half way. I cannot be open and totally accepting of someone if I am regarded with suspicion, doubt or lack of trust in return. As I mentioned earlier, things take time, of course. If I am not compelled to reciprocate, I will not prolong the acquaintance.

My companion friendships are very close because they are based upon mutual respect and trust

This is primarily because quite literally, know each other very intimately. Each has blossomed over quite a long time into what we enjoy now, as any true relationship evolves and cannot be forced, but also has to be nurtured by both sides void of alterior motives. As a result, all of our meetings are sheer pleasure. I enjoy sharing different experiences with each and discussing things we would like to share, even outside of the bedroom too. Are such experiences really so rare? I do not know, as I have only my own experiences from which to draw upon and the anecdotal opinions of others.

Often, the most touching moments are the ones away from the bed

I have relished truly touching stories shared by other escorts, so I in no way regard myself as unique. I know many companions who have some wonderful clients and share intensely personal moments together. Readers probably have their own definitions and experiences to consider. These are mine and I believe such friendships are quite possible and there is nothing inherently wrong with them. The fact that most companions I know say they have their “special clients” corroborates my point of view.

Is this unique to the UK scene? I have no idea, but I believe not, based on what I have heard from companions overseas.

Contributed by Capital Punter, Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

Isolation in Sex Work

"Working in the adult industry, especially when you are an independent provider, is an isolated lifestyle disconnected from common culture" Phone Sex Secrets

I began escorting at an agency. I went to sit with the other girls on each of my shifts rather than waiting at home for my pager to buzz (yes, it was pagers back then!). I went not because the agency was centrally located but for the company. What began as a means to learn the ropes of the sex worker industry quickly became a desire for camaraderie. Even when I developed a number of regulars, I still wanted to make sure I had some time to hang out with my sex work sisters. Decades later, I'm only more aware of that need.

On the average, folks don’t accept sex work. Our families, whether innate or married and our friends all have reasons why we ought not subject them to our choice of occupation.  This forces the necessity for sex workers to lead double lives. 

While our silence may begin as a gift to those we love, at some point it becomes a gag.  Even the most sex positive and open minded friends really can't grasp what we do. Existing long enough without a support system who can listen, commiserate and really comprehend what our days are like can lead to feeling misunderstood, unappreciated and unaccepted. These emotions can lead to deeper feelings of depression, resentment and withdrawal.

Our careers themselves add to the isolation. We grow wary of being ousted, unsure of who to trust. How long will they be in this work? Who do they know? And, truth be told, we are a competitive lot, especially if we are independent professionals. We have to be because we are in competition with one another in many ways, at least in terms of separating ourselves from the rest of the pack. Even the ease and affordability of the internet and other digital technologies render us more alone most of the time. The results are that we don't wish to share too much about our private lives, our professional experience or knowledge, ourselves, winding up even more entrenched in our state of seclusion.

I'm sure many readers are acutely aware of these feelings of isolation in their personal lives. But some may silently suffer from more and more burn out, summing it up to demands of the job.  While sex work is far more demanding than most people realize, it's not the only factor in losing interest. In fact, it's only half of the equation. The other half is a good support system.

The more demanding the sex work is, the greater the need is for a support system.  But how do you find or create one in the sometimes harsh and difficult circumstances of sex work?

Forums and online groups for escorts, PSOs (phone sex operators) and other sex professionals are good places to start. Even forums for erotica authors can be welcoming places, especially when you dabble in offering custom erotica. Often, however, you'll find yourself avoiding personal and professional questions alike in these online communities -- for all the reasons mentioned earlier. (I always do recommend exercising caution in online communities.) At least that's likely how you'll feel at the start.

Over time you'll find yourself conversing more regularly with a few people, hopefully building a virtual friend or two. Virtual friends help, of course! But even if you want to meet, schedules, etc. may not allow for it. At least not as often as you'll need.

Another way to begin building a support system for yourself is by getting out into the world meeting other people who work in the adult industry. One of the best ways to do this, honestly, is to get involved in some sort of activism. I, naturally, recommend joining some sort of group working for sex workers rights, or at least a sex-positive organization. Not only because I believe working towards an end to the stigmas of sex and sex work will lead to less isolated lives for each of us as individuals, but because when you do "out" yourself as a sex worker, you're likely to be understood and respected. Plus, working towards a goal larger than yourself gives you a healthy dose of perspective.

You can always begin by forming an online alliance or virtual working relationship before participating in any real world gathering. And, if you are worried about being identified in your home town or base of operations, locate groups with meetings and events you can attend but which are not in your own town. 

Another place to look for like minded folks in similar situations is at the book signings and readings of works by erotica editors and human sexuality authors. I find there are always a great number of sex workers in attendance at these events and the bigger the name of the author or editor, the bigger the crowds. Start following some of the most recognized names in these publishing genres (which often is just plain good sense for business, anyway), and you'll soon find yourself sipping drinks with folks with similar i­ssues in their lives.

College and university campuses also have forums and events centered on sexual topics, from lectures and workshops, to screening of adult films and documentaries.  There are even places online where you can find or start "meet ups" for sex workers. Don't look for clients at these events; but you can find friends.

Most of these events, especially those on campus and book related, are most commonly held in larger cities. Escorts and companions who travel might find this is the best of both worlds: out and about socially yet not in your home town. But smaller towns have them too.  Just like sex workers, sex positive events and folks are out there. You just have to go looking for them.

Written by Guest Author for Geisha Diaries, Phone Sex Secrets

Mechanics of Cross Dressing

"I've come to see cross-dressing as one part of a multifaceted continuum of lingerie fetish" A Slip of a Girl

A true sexual fetish requires the object, in this case lingerie, to be present. But there are plenty who consider themselves lingerie fetishists, even if they can achieve arousal and satisfaction without it. This might be a simple starting point in the continuum:

Men who love lingerie

They see it more than just a wrapping to discard as quickly as the paper covering a holiday gift. They want to experience it as part of the woman. Quite often, these lingerie fetishists want the lingerie to be part of the sex acts, whether it’s included in foreplay or part of the main course.  It could be as simple as being stroked by the hem of a slip, leaving panties on during sex, or being masturbated to orgasm with the skirt of a nightgown.

The lingerie fetish may also be combined with other interests such as Dominance and submission

in which they desire to spank or otherwise dominate a woman in traditional or classic lingerie (girdles, garters, stockings and the like). Frankly, the lingerie fetish can be combined with just about all other fetishes, taboos and fantasies. From there, the continuum itself (not necessarily any man) may progress to wearing lingerie

Panties are usually the most common garment

This may only be for the sensual experience of the fabrics, or it may even progress into the taboo of wearing women's undergarments. This is called cross-dressing (CD).

Strictly speaking, cross-dressing is when a person of one gender wears the clothing, underclothing and/or fashion accessories most commonly associated with another gender

In Western cultures where women can freely wear pants and other items of "male" clothing, the term cross-dressing most frequently refers to men wearing women's clothing. (Cross-dressing doesn't need to have a sexual component, but here I'm discussing cross-dressing  in terms of sex work and human sexuality.)

For many cross-dressing men, there's a thrill in just wearing a piece of women's intimate apparel merely because it's not considered masculine

The sensual delights enhance the awareness of wearing it and when combined with the forbidden nature of the act, it can be quite powerful. Yet, for many other cross-dressers there is more.

It's important to note that the majority of cross-dressing men are not gay or transsexual

Most of them wouldn't consider themselves bisexual or bi-curious either.  They dislike seeing photos of men in drag, preferring to view images of women in lingerie and inserting themselves, figuratively or literally, in her shoes for the time being.  They want to feel feminine, even be treated as female for periods of time, but they do not identify as female in terms of their own gender. Nor do they love or lust after men not even if and when they dress completely as a woman and give themselves a female name. It really is more of a form of cross play or role play, in which they like to play the part of the woman -- as they define it.  (This can be a tricky area for many women who are in relationships with cross-dressers, and one of the many reasons professional services are sought.) There are a great number of cross-dressers who wish to engage in fantasies or professional services for the girl-on-girl action with themselves as one of the girls, yet eventually climaxing in more traditionally male ways.

Most sissy maids strongly identify as submissive and wish to serve a dominant female

A cross-dressing man may be even further along the continuum, in what many prefer to call "the role of the sissy." Sissies and sissy maids typically are those cross-dressing men who like to role play as if they were female, including serving women and being used by men. In this role, they desire to participate in power exchanges based on their sexual ideals of gender roles; anything from pegging to spankings and other physical punishments, from emotional punishments such as humiliation to servicing other men. This includes being used by or "whored out" as a "sissy slut" to other men.

The definition of "sissy" and the fantasy acts themselves vary wildly based on the individual's stereotypes of what it means to be female, their ideas of submission, and just about any other sexual interests, fetishes and fantasies you can think of. Clearly this is not a one-size-fits-all area of sexuality.

Approaching a lingerie fetishist as a sissy, treating a cross-dresser as a gay man or threatening a sissy with a spanking paddle can incur disastrous results!  

It's vital for the professional sex worker, be it an escort, phone sex operator, BDSM professional, et al, to note all the subtle and not-so-subtle differences in this lingerie fetish continuum. Any professional wishing to work successfully with clients in these areas must learn how to identify the individual needs and fantasies of each specific client in order to satisfy them.

Written by Geisha Diaries Guest Author & Lingerie Fetishist, A Slip of a Girl

How to Find a Sugar Daddy Online

Geisha Diaries caught up with one of our Guest Authors, Butterfly Sugar, who wrote the article, “Lifestyle of a Sugar Baby” back in March, 2011. She is an elegant, well-written and self-professed, chocolate-dipped sugar baby. We asked her to share her insight and knowledge about successfully pursuing the sugar baby lifestyle. Here is her advice:

1. Sugar baby photos and bio 

• These are the primary features when drawing a sugar daddy to your advertisement, curious to see more of you and know what you are all about. 
• Use your own photos. Do not use someone else's images. Eventually, you will meet your potential sugar daddy and will have wasted your time and his by falsifying your identity with someone else’s pictures.
• If you do not want to show face in your photos, crop them from the lips down. This way he can see your pretty smile or sexy pout along with the shape of your body.
• Your profile should display at least 3 basic looks: the little black dress (or equivalent) to show how nice you look in chic to semi formal attire; a headshot (personality radiates through a smile); a fun, lifestyle shot (such as a swimsuit, playing with your dog or walking along the beach)

• Photos that depict careless partying or drinking will discount any persona and should be avoided.

2. Structuring your ad 

• Avoid sounding desperate or whining like a down & out country song
• Don’t use cliche' words such as spoiled, high maintenance or drama free
• When describing your looks, create a vivid, detailed picture. Which sounds better? "I have brown skin" or "I have silky, smooth, milk chocolate skin"?
• www.thesaurus.com should become your best friend. Using repetitive words (i.e., fun, generous, spoiled) gets monotonous. Make a little effort and discover some unique words or phrases to express the same meanings.
• Explain your objective: you need to pay off your student loans; you would like to start a business, etc.
• Run everything through a spell check before posting your ad. Simple spelling and grammatical errors can be a turn off to the well appointed gentleman.
• Refrain from using "adult worker" terminology. It won’t get you very far.

3. Sugar daddy complaints 

• The lady looks nothing like her pictures. Either she is using outdated photos or photos from 20 lbs ago or those of a different person all together.
• There are a lot of women who feature themselves as mail order brides whose objectives are for the gentleman to pay their way to America.
• Men do not like to think that the sugar babies they are meeting are escorts. Whether or not they themselves see providers is beside the point. Post different photos than those used for your escort ads or sites as they can be run through Tineye and come back to haunt you.
• Many ladies are cold, detached and only care about money. Despite how you may feel, you should be amiable, charming, patient and kind. You will truly benefit from these traits.

4. Do your research – learn as much as you can about your potential sugar daddy beforehand 

• Utilize Google or any other search engine by inputting as much information as you can to investigate your potential sugar daddy.
• Tineye verifies the authenticity of a photo. Some men use pictures from their business websites which is another way of discovering more about them.
• Pipl is a great source for gathering in depth information
• Reverse phone number lookup is quite useful in determining the authenticity of your potential sugar daddy and can provide a lot of insight.

5. Watch out for the losers 

• Test Drive Dude - this is the guy who wants to test the goods so that he knows what he is getting into. You are not a car so there is no kicking the tires beforehand. There are a lot of men who prey on the naivete of women, coercing them to have sex on the premise that they will give them something. Another one is the guy who tries to pay per orgasm. Oh yes, ladies, there are those guys out there.
• Time Waster/Email Buddy - this guy will have plenty of time to email you numerous times a day but magically never have time to meet with you. He wants emotional support that he is not getting elsewhere and utilizes the promise of meeting you to falsely fulfill those needs.
• Flakes - unfortunately, there are a lot of guys who will chat with you, schedule a date but never show up. Follow your instinct on how serious you think they are and request that they call or email on the day of your date to confirm.
• Photo Collector - I post only 2 or 3 photos on my profile. I do not post in my private gallery because I find that doing so attracts a lot of perverts who sift through the website looking for ladies with private photos hoping they can see some tits and ass. Those same guys do not plan on speaking or meeting you. I stay away from men who ask to see more photos. Instead, I suggest that we meet in person if they would like to see more.
• Text Message Phone Sex - this guy push the sexual boundaries before you ever meet. He is yet another guy just looking to get his rocks off.
• Mr. "Promise you the World" - don't get hypnotized by a pretty song. If it sounds like bullshit he is feeding you, it is bullshit. Female intuition is key.
• Setup a brand new individual email for online sugar dating. An email address can be tracked and if you’ve used it for anything personal your information can be leaked.

Written by Butterfly Sugar, Sugar Baby and Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

T Girl Chronicles of a Group Sex Junkie

"So, to do it right, you really need a guy who is so confident that he'll go face to face with another dude while you're sandwiched in between, getting fucked senseless." Guest Author Jessica Rivers

I used to be a jet setting T girl, traveling like a nomad between an endless array of cities, meeting all kinds of interesting people. But as the economy continues to drag and my travels decline, I appreciate the simpler things in life such as doing laundry. Today is incall cleaning day. Stephanie's been away from home for a while, so I've had to maintain both our home and the incall.

Girls who I work with call me The Security Bitch and they mean it in a good way

I used to work with this fabulous blonde spinner chick, Amy. She introduced me to group sex and had more security holes than Windows2000. I was always riding that girl's ass about something. She would give away the address of the incall randomly and then leave the door open when expecting a guest. She did not use an alias. And she would drop off the laundry at the same local dry cleaner, every week.

Security means maintaining a low profile by remaining conscientious of those around you and protecting your privacy, something Amy had no clue about

One evening, we stopped to pick up the laundry at the cleaners. The owner, a woman, silently glared at Amy as she requested her laundry. In the car, Amy shrieked about people's biased opinions. “Listen,” I explained to her carefully, “every week you walk in to the same cleaners, clicking your stilettos, strutting in your short skirt and drop off 6 sets of bedding, numerous facecloths, thongs, bikinis and lingerie. What kind of impression are you giving this woman?” (I mean, I totally appreciate my slutty lifestyle, but I have to keep in mind that regular folk might not be amused.)

Truthfully, this girl was addicted to cock

So here I sit in a laundromat, cleaning several comforters and thinking about the other thing that Amy got me hooked on – group sex. Gangbangs. Tag teaming. Threesomes. Whatever you want to call it - a nice series of cocks filling all my holes.These group sessions were really just an excuse for a Sunday afternoon gangbang and to score big in the course of three hours. She would set aside the last Sunday of each month from 3-6pm as a group session. Essentially, this meant that you shared your appointment with whoever else was there. Usually it was her and one other girl and I was the hostess. I greeted guests at the door, served drinks, snacks and kept order. (Security Bitch, remember?) I also wore a scanty, French maid outfit. It was perfect!

Of course no one fucked me, on the record at least, though I ended up administering a few random blowjobs toward the end of the party

I have to say, I really do enjoy giving a guy a blowjob while his buddy is in the next room fucking my friend. And all the while, he's telling me,“ you have to keep this a secret” and “you can't tell my buddy” and “my God, you're so hot”. I love that mix, a guy so torn by his need to have me suck his cock that he can't resist, despite his buddy being there, so he pulls me away for a discreet quickie in the bathroom when he thinks no one can see. Absolutely mischievous!

Amy was a machine. That girl could outlast anyone in the bedroom. It was a lot of fun and a lot of money. It definitely gave me a taste for gangbangs. My clients know that I always keep porn running on the laptop next to my bed and most of it lately is just group sex and a lot of it.

So first, a gangbang guy must be secure in his sexuality

One of the most common things a hobbyist will say to me after they say they want to come to my gangbang is, “well, these other dudes, they're not going to be looking at my junk, right”? I just shake my head sadly, “No, no one's looking at your junk. But it is a gangbang.”

Gangbang guys must have no problem sharing a girl (or a Tgirl) with a stranger or a friend

It's odd for most guys. What gets more bazaar is when you start getting into double penetration and all of the really fun gangbang stuff because then you need a guy willing to fuck you with a stranger and also get up close with the other guy while they both mount you. Not to mention that their dicks might touch during the whole process. So, to do it right, you really need a guy who is so confident that he'll go face to face with another dude while you're sandwiched inbetween getting fucked senseless. And then, for an encore, flip you around and trade. That's not just any dude. It's a super dude, a super gangbang dude. And there aren't that many of them. Never mind several at a time. And ones that will do a Tgirl? Even more rare.

You see, people are so in love with the idea of a gangbang that the reality is always more uncomfortable. 

My last attempt at gangbangage was about 6 months ago in Dallas. This time I ran a few ads and even told the people replying that I was an escort and that this was how I played in my free time. (It never hurts to do a little marketing for solo sessions while I'm at it). Out of 50 respondents, 30 returned my contact, 10 of whom called, 7 who then agreed to meet and only 1 scared douche bag name Eric showed up.

I will always meet a date at a local coffee shop initially and then we drive over to my incall location

As disappointed as I was that there was only one guy, hardly a gangbang of any kind, I always keep my word: He was way out of his league and terrified as a result. I think he hoped that I wouldn't show up at all. Suddenly, it turns out that I'm not only for real, but that I'm his all alone simply because no one else showed up. I’m afraid it was too much for him.

The sex was even worse. His manhood was cursed in shape and size and he came in less than 2 minutes he was so nervous. I went into the bathroom to change back into my street clothes so he could drive me back to the coffee shop. Instead, he literally bolted out the door and was gone before I even knew what happened. I was stranded at the incall until midnight when a friend was finally able to pick me up.

And that's what this Tgirl thinks about while she sits in the laundromat today

getting ogled by an Asian dude who seems to think his sneakers are impressive and some grand black chick with a chip on her shoulder for skinny white bitches. The foamy water swirling around in my five washing machines is super hot, the strong bleach smell screams disinfected. I watch the occasional thong dart past the window and think about gangbangs past and future and the lack of a few good men.

Written by Jessica Rivers, TGirl and Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

The Quintessential Cumshot

His cock, now cement hard, overwhelmed the tightness between my legs. Euphoric ecstasy bid farewell to the sharp and sudden pain of his entrance, bringing with it a realm of pleasure. The room swelled to a stifling temperature as his salty sweat dripped into my eyes creating tears that streamed down the sides of my face. He pushed the swollen tip a little...

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Love Story of an Escort

"It is now October 2011, Breast Cancer Awareness Month and I have been here in Atlanta by Eric’s side caring for Irina for more than a year" Guest Author, Vincent William

In my previous military career I became very close with a fellow Special Operations Officer named Eric. He became the brother I never had. We worked a two-man team in the back alleys of Baghdad and Kabul gathering intelligence for NATO operations. I spoke the language and did the talking. His job was to watch my back in the presence of menacing people which he did with expert skill since I am alive and well to write this story.

Upon leaving the service we took different paths. I became a male companion which he knew about and supported

He went into the business world as an IT professional and built a life with his wonderful wife Irina whom I regard as a sister.

He revealed that his wife Irina’s cancer which had been in remission had returned with a vengeance

During one of our weekend phone talks in October 2010, Eric called while I was working in Dallas, Texas. His voice was thick with anguish and he began to weep. Alarmed, I demanded that he tell me what was the matter and how I could help. I knew of her cancer and was devastated to hear of its recurrence.

Eric’s job demands grueling travel, five days per week. That strain compounded by Irina’s need for round-the-clock care was driving him toward a heart attack. I cut him off mid-sentence and said “I am on my way. I’ll be there in one week”. I closed my apartment, gave away my furniture and drove to their home in Atlanta.

I knew the whole story of how Eric and Irina met, fell in love and married

Eric is of Russian descent and during a leave period from our stressful military assignments he went to Moscow to see the city of his late grandparents who raised him. Like any man might, he sought the caress of a woman while in Moscow and in the bar of his hotel met Irina working as an escort.

In previous years Irina had been one of Moscow’s top escorts

She led an elite lifestyle, wearing designer gowns courted by wealthy Russian and European men from upper echelons of society who would jet her to meet them in exotic locations all over the world. With her light, blond hair, striking Slavic features, confident manner and delicious figure she turned the heads of passers by as she displayed the sexiest of attire. Unfortunately, at the height of her escort career, she was diagnosed with breast cancer and fell increasingly ill, losing grip of appointments and appearance. Her assets dwindled and soon she was forced to turn to an unsavory escort service. The service worked her mercilessly, draining most of her fees. They eroded her self-esteem, conditioning her that as an afflicted whore, she was fortunate that they had hired her.

Irina's once stunning appearance had been eaten away by the cancer and she was now reduced to performing sordid acts for mere pittance

The miracle of Eric and Irina's meeting gave birth to a beautiful love affair of passion and deep commitment. By then, Irina had undergone a double-mastectomy and was confined to enticing clients to oral sex only, desperately hoping that her condition would not be discovered. However, on the evening that they met she looked into Eric’s eyes and compassionate, loving heart and told him about her heartbreaking tragedy. It did not matter to him the least bit as Eric displayed the mark of a real man. They became one. Later, they migrated to Germany where they were married. I carried the honor of being Eric’s best man at their small and intimate wedding. Afterward, they moved to the States.

It is now October 2011, Breast Cancer Awareness Month and I have been here in Atlanta by Eric’s side caring for Irina for more than a year

While Eric is away during the week, I take her to all doctor appointments, prepare her medically mandated diet and hold her after her chemotherapy sessions with the resulting bouts of nausea and migraine headaches. I schedule all my escort and companion appointments around her needs and awake two to three times per night to check and monitor her condition. Each time I take her to the doctor, she tells the entire staff that she is so fortunate to have two husbands. This always raises brows but I just love to hear her giggle about it like a little girl.

Ironically, just as I complete writing this story, Eric called to happily announce that his transfer to Atlanta was finally approved and he will be able to work locally and be with his beloved Irina each night. After that I will be moving on and if you asked me if I would do it all again? The answer is an unequivocal yes.

Written by Vincent William, Geisha Diaries Guest Author & Ladie's Companion

My Vagina is a Battlefield

"Witch, dyke, whore, bitch, mother, sister, daughter and friend with a vagina who may or may not choose to sell it, lend it, lease it or give it away as after all, it is ours, isn’t it? Then why am I still made to feel that I only possess it for the pleasure and profit of others?" Ms. Grey

I have been in this industry for six years and my learning curve has been steep and quick. I went from an independent Dominatrix to one who owned a small dungeon with many women working for me. From there I guess you could say I became a Madame (had I been born a man the term ‘entrepreneur’ would not be held in question), then Tantra Priestess and Temple leader. Not only have I learned much about human nature, men, women, the industry and myself, I have become a sort of arm chair lawyer as well. I needed to learn the laws by which I dodged and what better way than by observing the follies of others? So far I have crept stealthily through this minefield of misspeak and ossification because I am keenly aware that I am prey. Prey to the hypocrisy of men and women alike, prey to the willful ignorance of humans who remain blind to the troubles of a failing nation.

Women as usual, are silently paying the price

By now I am sure you have realized that America plays a rigged game. Men, global elitists, greedy sods, whatever you want to call them have royally fucked up a good thing. Witch, dyke, whore, bitch, mother, sister, daughter and friend with a vagina who may or may not choose to sell it, lend it, lease it or give it away as after all, it is ours, isn’t it? Then why am I still made to feel that I only possess it for the pleasure and profit of others? If we don't have full legal rights to our own body to use it as we see fit, why are we not fighting this? We won't be pretty forever and when it ends as all good things do, where is your place in the world, the world we help create by our passivity? Our benign indifference and self denial is criminal when we witness others who fall around us like the rabbits in Watership Down. Many of us in fact are criminals. At least in the invasive and pitiless gaze of the omnipotent colossus thing we allowed to come into being called, our government. Sometimes ignoring pressing matters into non existence simply does not work. I used to be able to do it with prescription drugs when I could afford benefits. 

I have become increasingly outraged regarding the controlling behavior of our government regarding women's sexuality

If I am not mistaken I sense a sea change when it comes to the new breed of women who either choose or who are forced to choose for the time being, to work in this industry. They have achieved higher education, are more articulate and possess more progressive marketing skills. Some are true entrepreneurs with a raw sense of grit, such as Dr Brooke Magnanti, Sydney Biddle Barrows, Heidi Fleiss and Deborah Jeane Palfrey -who everyone knows were murdered by our government to protect clients. I admire them greatly.

Many of these women and others who go unnamed, are instrumental in slowly changing the perceptions of society regarding being a paid companion. In the tradition of all great courtesans, they both reflect and encourage their current times. The greats are always misunderstood, coveted, desired and hunted. And so it still is today. I put the presently tormented Tracy Elise of The Phoenix Goddess Temple by our ever creepier misogynist government in a different category altogether. However her plight is the same. Go to the Phoenix Goddess Temple to read about this perfect outrage. To take action is your own choice of course.

I applaud Geisha Affair's efforts to create something new

And this venture is new. In order to create the myth, we need a united front and it starts with women's willingness to be part of a new solution. If we truly want to reap the benefits of a feminist, provocative and lucrative site for women I think we should try and suspend our cynicism and wait out the growing pains. If we all loath review boards and so on, here is a perfect opportunity to create the reality we want.

I see absolutely nothing wrong with Geisha Affair wanting to prosper from all their hard work. Why is this something that should be resented? They are women just like us who wish to have some financial security. I would much prefer to pay them versus these male owned, smug pimps who make more money off of us than we do ourselves. I think it should be a challenge to usurp these bloated and ineffectual dinosaurs. I realize that Geisha Affair is in its infancy and I for one am willing to invest in it as I am curious and hopeful about the outcome.

Attracting the clients is a doubled edged sword because it means we need to pander to their egos and that could lead to a dilution of our original intent. I guess you could do as some have suggested which is for Geisha Affair to send out private invites to male posters to attract them here. My concern is it will foster the same environment like those that I have witnessed in the past on other familiar websites, an incestuous, competitive group who cannibalize one another until all are disgusted or bored and they disband.

In any event, for now I am a believer and I believe that I am betting on a potentially successful venture.

 Written by Ms. Grey, Tantra Goddess and Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

Escort Marketing: Diet Plan for Success

"As a provider, running your own business is quite similar to maintaining a healthy diet & exercise plan. There are certain well known steps to achieving your physical goals. The same steps can be applied toward growing your business" Executive Luxuries

As a companion, what are your goals?

The key to a successful weight-loss plan is to have a goal. Any personal trainer will advise you to target something more specific than just losing weight. The same applies to your provider business. Identifying an incentive will help fuel that goal: 

• seeking financial independence
• buying a new car
• going to college
• going from an independent provider to an agency owner and working behind the scenes
• earning a healthy income and using the funds to travel the world
• starting the art/dance studio you’ve always dreamed of

As a independent provider in the adult industry, you are actually an entrepreneur, whether you realize it or not

It's time to start thinking like one. Any successful, small business owner has not only established goals but visibly identified them in detail. As small children, we all had dreams and aspirations of what we wanted to be when we grew up. Ask any child what they dream of and they’ll spend the next 10 minutes describing those dreams in vivid description. If you are serious about your business, you need to be specific about your goals. Doing so will make your goals attainable, turning your dreams into a reality. But you must write them down on paper.

As a provider and small business owner, constructing a plan in essential

Whenever you set out on a road trip, vacation or even a full day of shopping you always have a plan. Your business is much more important and all the more reason to identify a plan. Ask yourself:

Who is your target market?

Who do you want to meet? Are you looking for the fun, easygoing type? Or are you more interested in the smart and savvy businessman? Are you looking to unleash your inner kink and incorporate girl-on-girl sessions? Profile your clientele and adjust your marketing & advertising plan to appeal to the needs of each segment (i.e., do your photos appeal to bisexual women if girl-on-girl sessions are your thing? Does your bio speak to the self-employed 50-something business man? Are your donations priced too high or too low?)

What are your hours of operation?

Plan when you’re going to work, how early you will begin taking appointments and how late in the day you will take your last client. Consider how many hours a day you will be available and what specific hours you will answer your phone. When scheduling your outcall, pad into your day travel time to and from your hotel. If you are a touring companion who enjoys sightseeing, tack an extra day onto your agenda dedicated solely to personal time. Do not sandwich your personal schedule into your work day. Disaster will result.

Where will you offer your services?

Will you operate from an incall or an outcall? How many daily appointments will you take with breaks inbetween? Will you meet your clients at the door of your hotel suite, in the lobby or perhaps at the bar? Research and stake out in advance the hotel where you’ll be staying: Is it card key access only? How heavy is the foot traffic? Can you meet discreetly with clients while maximizing your time and potential earnings without attracting attention to yourself? Favorably answering all of these critical details spells success.

Recognize when your plan doesnt work

One of the most critical components to any business plan is having the ability to recognize when it's not yielding results. Many people make no effort to change their plans despite numerous failures. If Weight Watchers didn’t work, you might try Jenny Craig or Atkins. We’ve all tried a myriad of diet plans only to replace one with another when results were fruitless. Why shouldn’t the same logic apply to your business? If your business plan isn’t working, then it’s time to revamp the strategy or create a new one. If you can recognize that your business plan needs to be replaced, you will arrive one step closer to achieving your goals. 

Consistency is key

Like any exercise plan consistency pays off. Build into your calendar time set aside daily to assess the needs of your business and recognize any necessary adjustments. Exercising a couple of times a month isn’t going to get you the tone, lean body that you long for. But dedicating a few hours every day of every week will reward you with the physique that you deserve. Treat your business no differently. As a provider, your business doesn’t have to control your life. It is simply a means to an end, a valuable tool of success. Remember that you have invested yourself in this venture in order to achieve the type of financial and personal freedom to which few are privy. With consistency, it can be done.

Maintaining consistency of your business lends to client’s understanding of your boundaries – what’s acceptable and what isn’t. People will try to cross the line only if they believe they can get away with it. Remaining steadfast in your position will solidify your reputation, diminishing the need to have to justify your decisions.

Rest is imperative in any lucrative business

In our humble opinion it’s even more important in the companion world. You need to maintain equilibrium between body, mind and soul and that comes with rest. If you become over fatigued, you’ll eventually grow cynical toward your business. Like your muscles when you exercise, you need to give yourself time to recuperate. A trainer will have you take regular short breaks. The same applies to your business. Don’t over exert yourself working 24/7 for months on end. Exhaustion will adversely impact how you feel about yourself, your clients and your lifestyle whether or not you think you can disguise it.

We suggest taking regular short breaks. In a 6 day work week it’s a good idea to take off one weekday, preferably your slowest day of the week. In doing so, you'll have more time to take care of things like going to the doctor’s office or visiting your attorney without the pressure of having to cancel or reschedule appointments.

Surround yourself with support

Like any good exercise plan your emotional and mental well being are key. A trainer will advise you to surround yourself with positive people who strive toward similar goals so that you can lean on them and resist cheating with a huge slice of cheesecake. As a provider, the same applies. Life as an escort can be a very lonely career path despite the number of people with whom you interact. Drama prevails not only on the member’s only provider boards but also with clients. You need to have someone in your corner with whom you can relate who understands your professional lifestyle. 

Working with an assistant is a great way to balance your work and personal life

Finding someone you can trust to help manage tedious, time consuming, day-to-day communications creates more personal time for you. You can now take time to do regular stuff  like getting your nails done, running neglected errands, attending your kid's soccer game and meeting your girlfriends for drinks. For those ladies in a relationship, never underestimate a man’s sensitivity to your lack of time. Go out on a date night and focus on your personal love life.

Heeding the steps in this article combined with hiring an assistant you can trust is a guaranteed recipe for a successful provider career. Above all, you can be happy!

Written by Guest Author for Geisha Diaries, Executive Luxuries

International Escort Affairs

"It is safe to say that escorts are made up of a cross-section of personalities and this has more to do with experience than their individual nationalities" Capital Punter

There is a perception by escorts and punters alike that many Eastern European ladies are cold and mechanical and only in it for the money. I have met many Eastern European ladies and yes, a few have been a bit unpleasant or disinterested. But many have been charming and engaging, some of whom I have become good friends.

It was immediately apparent that the London scene is permeated with escorts from all four corners of the globe

If the reader is familiar with London, he or she will be aware that it is a cultural melting pot, an indigenous hot spot where people from all walks of life co-exist. Before I embarked upon my new hobby, I perused many escort agency websites to familiarize myself with the industry. 

The flip side is that I have also met some British ladies who have been the antithesis of a convivial hostess. As with any walk of life, it is safe to say that escorts are made up of a cross-section of personalities and this has more to do with experience than their individual nationality as some stereotyped group.

Having resided in London all my life, I have noticed a big movement in the ethnic mix

particularly in recent years since the expansion of the European Union and the accession of many former Eastern Bloc countries. Ethnic minorities are estimated to soon comprise the majority of citizens in the capital.

Why escort agencies presume that punters cannot distinguish between them is totally beyond me

As a lover of culture and of learning about different people, I was intrigued by the variety of nationalities around, although I do have to admit to an intense frustration when agencies list many ladies only as "Eastern European". It is a vast area made up of many different and diverse countries, with different languages and cultures. 

London does have areas where each ethnic group tends to congregate, such as Chinatown, Edgware Road (Middle Eastern) or Brick Lane (Bangladeshi), but escorts of different nationalities seem to be more spread out. Instead, I have noticed escort hotspots, areas thick with working ladies.

This is only a snapshot, but as you can see, it creates a very wide spectrum of choice for the punter to navigate

I recently published a blog on my own site entitled “London’s United Nations of Escorts” where I surmised there are ladies from around the world working in London. The main nationalities in London are: Russia, the Baltic States (particularly Latvia and Lithuania), Poland, Romania, Bulgaria, Spain, Italy, Brazil, Thailand, Japan, Korea and sadly, very few from America!

Indeed, there must be something for everyone. Of course, there are some differences between the cultures of ladies from the different regions, which means a gentleman punter can tailor his experience to the type of lady he prefers. However, it is equally enjoyable to meet ladies from many different backgrounds, to learn about them and to gain a wealth of experience.

Given the diversity of London, it only stands to reason there will be escorts from all over the world

Generally, it is a pretty safe and tolerant city in which to work and the diversity adds to the fun of it, both as an inhabitant and as a punter.

Written by Punter & Guest Author for Geisha Diaries, Capital Punter 

The Entrepreneurial Companion

"Societal standards regarding a woman’s sexual freedom and choice are disturbingly archaic, controlling from a place of fear" Guest Author Edie Vail

Common sense has always been one of my strong points. This is the main reason viewing myself as a courtesan, escort, companion, prostitute – whatever the current labels are, has never felt wrong or out of place. I am raising beautiful children on my own, wearing many hats as teacher, chauffer, cook, laundress, and achieving an advanced degree all at the same time. The thought of marriage to a conventional, full-time job in exchange for survival is inconceivable. I know where my talents lie, what I enjoy, how I can provide for my family and be at the top of my profession.

Sharing with others what I do in my life is not an option

I’ve built businesses from scratch, bought and sold many a home, taught Sunday school, volunteered in women’s shelters and advocated for those with no voice. As the matriarch of the family I plan vacations, dinners, religious celebrations and manage squabbles threatening our chaotic peace. I’m the woman in the grocery store in a baseball hat, jeans and tank top preparing for the team barbeque. As a provider, you couldn’t pick me out of a crowd. My profession thrives under the radar. This is how I choose to put my pieces together. Nothing flows so perfectly as it does when you close your eyes, lie back and settle into your true self.

After successfully becoming entangled in the real estate craze, I escaped with only a few scrapes and bruises. Carefully buying time to assess my next endeavour, I realized what the next chapter held.

At times, life suffocates and survival heartlessly demands that we put the pieces back together

Like it or not, we must strike a balance of normalcy with what is within our reach. Given the present economic era in all its complicated layers, I chose to work as an escort without the blink of an eye. I could say “become an escort” however the drive and acceptance towards this profession lends me to believe that I’ve been one for years, on hiatus perhaps. Now was the time for rebirth, to push from the cocoon and seize the life I’ve always wanted: complete freedom within reach.

Well spent strength and power intrigues me, draws forth my sensual femininity with a deep curiosity

Raised in a blue-blood family, standards and expectations ran paramount for the men while the women settled into marriages and children. Not for me. As the only woman in the family to graduate college I hungered for more than coattails to ride. Men were my expertise spoken in a non-traditional language. Craving the deep scent of a man, the gentle power of strong hands guiding my hips, becoming mesmerized by a low voice spilling the day’s business – I get lost for hours.

I genuinely anticipate time with my clients. Every moment is savored and delicately prepared for in a thoughtful way. Lingerie is chosen carefully, body, hair and skin treatments indulged in regularly, current events absorbed diligently and perfect stilettos selected to accentuate the arch in my back. Investment of such time wraps the package of my identity as I prepare to lose myself in all that I appreciate in a man and the subtle fusion that we create.

How lucky am I to have been in a position to define myself as a companion

and reap the freedom that it beholds. Choosing this path is a blessing both for me and my clients, if I may be so bold.

Written by Edie Vail, Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

Anonymous Critic Bashes Geisha Affair

Earlier this year, we received a critical commentary from a faithful reader of Geisha Diaries, bashing Geisha Affair in the article, “Geisha Affair Blows Away Eros”. We shall refer to this person as ‘Anonymous’.

Anonymous seems disturbed with the notion that someday Geisha Affair (GA) will charge for its services

Unless it is a charitable foundation what business does not charge for its services? Anonymous fails to recognize any way of promoting GA other than by expending considerable amounts of money on paid advertisements even though GA does not currently charge for membership, despite various, parallel marketing avenues available at no cost. Thus, should we contact Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and Geisha Diaries and ask them to please make us pay for use of their otherwise, free services?

Anonymous has dismissed our word of mouth strategy because it represents neither an expense nor an exponential method of growth. But then, how to you justify multimillion dollar companies and businesses in general that encourage and appreciate customer referrals?

You, Anonymous, disregard the importance of our participation in message boards and chat forums perhaps because you don’t understand the importance of interacting with your fellow Community

Contrary to your belief, GA takes an avid interest in learning and understanding issues that impact the Community. In doing so, we may be able to present advice, alternatives or better options to make life easier for those amongst us. However, according to you all of our efforts are nullified unless we spend money on every available advertisement means. We could have never hired you as our CEO because your expertise would have already seen the demise of GA with your ignorance about cost benefit.

On the other hand, GA will never surprise its members out of the blue with advertising rates whether in 3 months, one year or 5 years as they have been published since day one on the website. GA features ‘Free Trial Membership’ right along with advertising rates disclosed in full view. See below and go here to view GA rates.

Incidentally, we do have members who already pay for their membership because they choose to contribute to the website. GA has taken part of those earnings to contribute to the fight against Breast Cancer. Is any other company in this industry doing so?

GA has staffed 24/7, paid customer service personnel in 3 continents - Europe, South America and the USA

Submit an email with any concern, question or new profile at 3:00 am in any time meridian and you will be attended. No. This service does not directly leverage traffic to the website but it dramatically increases customer satisfaction which becomes an indelible attribute in the long run. A satisfied member is a happy member who will feel confident to refer new members.

Finally, Anonymous, you are correct. While the aesthetics and charm of the website do not increase traffic they characterize the storefront of the site. Such elegance rightfully portrays our members with class, uniqueness and respect unless you find tacky, pay-per-click sex web cam banners surrounding paid advertiser’s profiles more attractive.

Meeshee of Meeshee Photography, contrary to your belief is not the owner of Geisha Affair

Rather, she is the Senior Marketing Director and GA makes use of her professionalism and expertise to handle our marketing efforts. Her success with Meeshee Photography was granted by her clients. She has earned her reputation and this kind of professionalism ranks high within GA.

Recently, Geisha Affair retained the services of Pepper Law Group (this was not a pro bono retainer) to deal with a dark situation impacting our Community. The case involved another “competitor” stealing provider’s profiles and identities, abusing people’s trust and even ruining their personas. Go here to read about it. With more than 13 years in the market and knowing the ins and outs of the industry,

Where were Eros and other competitors standing on this issue?

Who besides GA has been pro active about this situation? Eros, Backpage, etc. remain mute because they are more concerned about the cha-ching of their cash registers. Through our efforts we have shown the Community that they are not alone. Companions have someone to turn to when their rights have been violated.

I recommend that you pay a visit to Geisha Affair and reach out to any of our worldwide members to see if they have any complaints about GA. Ask them how difficult it is to upload photos, for instance. Have you experienced the hassle of uploading, cutting, trimming, cropping and resizing photos with the competition? That doesn’t happen at GA. Ask any member how long it took for their profile to be approved. For your information, it takes less than ten minutes, not 48-72 hours.

Finally, we don’t yet boast the mass traffic of Eros for one simple and understandable reason: GA is new in the market. Unfortunately, for you our name is buzzing around the world. Otherwise, how do you explain the fact that we have increasing members in Russia, France, Romania, Hungary, Germany, Italy, China, Japan, Singapore, Mexico, Jamaica, Australia, USA and Canada among others? Providers from all walks of life are drawn to GA - female escorts, male escorts, T-girls, True Mistresses & BDSM/Fetish, sugar babies, agencies and massage parlours. Do you think that GA steals profiles or forces members to join?

Freedom of expression is the cornerstone of Geisha Diaries and the backbone of Geisha Affair

Just think about who would publish your negative comments on their own website. Geisha Diaries welcome your thoughts and if they are negative we will challenge you with facts. So thank you very much for participating in Geisha Diaries and feel free to stop by anytime.

Written by Contributing Author, Geisha Affair, International

A Guide to Joining an Internet Escort Agency

"This article speaks to providers wanting to join a high class, internet escort agency" Saucy London Escorts

As the owner of a London escort agency for more than 8 years I have interviewed many providers. They fall into two categories: providers who are new to the scene and those who are already working. Often, the latter have worked in London or elsewhere, either independently or for another escort agency.

In London, there are many different types of escort services

Once you have found an escort agency that appeals to you read the website in detail and study the provider’s profiles. Googling the agency can provide a wealth of valuable information. Inputting the agency website into alexa.com will rank its popularity. There is usually an application form to complete and email. Be sure to include your ideal contact time and a few photos of yourself. Do not send too many photos as you do not want to tempt the agency to post your pictures on the website before your interview. The next step is to wait for the agency to contact you. It doesn’t hurt to place a follow up call after you have emailed your application form.

Dressing smart and impressive will make a big impact

On the phone it is important you let the agency know your age, location, background and level of escorting experience. Make sure you know the ins and outs of escorting and that the agency owner is aware of the extent of your knowledge and experience. The agency should then ask you for an interview. Once the interview is arranged, it is important to have another good look at the website before you attend the meeting. They should arrange to meet in a public place such as a cafe or bar - someplace where you can sit comfortably and converse easily yet with privacy. Prepare a list of questions to take with you on your interview. An outfit that shows off your figure is advisable so that the agency gets a good idea of your figure type.

In London, your popularity with clients includes not only your looks but also your interaction during bookings

Review your list of questions with the agency owner. Inquire about the commission rate. When the agency owner discusses services with you, explain in detail what you are and are not prepared to do with clients. 

Before you attend your interview think about whether or not you are comfortable showing face in your photos on the agency website

If you have a career outside of escorting, it is probably best to make sure the agency knows you want your face hidden or cut off. Either way, it is always a wise decision to have your photos taken by a professional photographer. Displaying amateur photos is a common stumbling block for many escorts who want to join a high class internet escort agency!

Discuss the agency’s clients

Agency owners typically do not meet clients face-to-face but should be able to give you a general profile. They are usually older, ages ranging between 35-55.

Discuss travelling to bookings

Estimate the time it takes to commute from your location to a central London station. It is important the agency owner notates the total time it takes for you to prepare for a booking and then travel to the most common locations.

Does the agency employ a receptionist?

Find out if the agency owner personally handles phone calls and emails or if they have a receptionist.

The agency owner should tell you fairly soon, perhaps even at the interview, whether he or she thinks you would be a suitable addition as an escort. Honesty is definitely the best policy as there is no point wasting anyone’s time. If you are taken on, remember everything that was discussed at the interview. If any details change you need to notify the agency. For example: in the event that you no longer wish to provide certain services.

Communication is very important, just like any other business!

After the initial interview, most communication between you and the agency owner will be by phone or email. Some successful escorts have worked for the same agency for years. It is good to meet for a drink every 5 to 6 months. Maybe sooner after the initial interview if only to discuss how things are going. 

Written by Saucy London Escorts, Guest Author for Geisha Diaries